I read a quote recently that really sparked something inside of me. I’m sure that God had already planted the seed there because the words made something happen within my heart. I longed for more of my Savior and less of me. Yes, I should always long for that. Unfortunately life gets in the way of what I SHOULD do most days.
The quote was this: Don’t judge ME because I sin differently than YOU.
In a matter of seconds my mind flashed back to the many times I’ve judged another’s sin. Who do I think I am that I can judge these other people when I am constantly sinning in my own life. We are all sinner’s.
Matthew 7:1-5 reminds us what God has to say about this.
“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”
After thinking about this for awhile I began to wonder how this effects my marriage. One instance came to mind immediately….
All of us women know that when men get sick, they get SICK. I’ve yet to find a woman that disagrees. Please stand up and holla if your man can handle his cold! When my hubby gets sick I know that I should recall 1 Corinthians 13:4. Love is PATIENT. I grow weary, impatient, and down right bitter when I have to take care of my big ole baby of a man. ( love you babe) Recently I have been dealing with a very sore and stiff muscle in my shoulder. I’ve pretty much been down and out for 2-3 weeks. I’ve tried massages, chiropractic, and meds to find very little relief. As I reflected on how my hubby has taken care of me in this time I began to feel a bit ashamed. Although it is rare for me to get sick, I’m still just making up excuses to make myself feel better about treating him that way. I honestly told myself that he was sinning against me by acting so dadgum sick! What the what!?
I say all of that to show you that we all sin in different ways. Rather it be getting angry during an argument and saying hurtful words, being jealous of time spent away from us, telling little white lies because we’re afraid they’ll judge us……
In the end we have to learn to be more like Jesus. Forgiving and nonjudgemental. Believe me, they DO go hand in hand. When we look at another person’s action and start to judge we have to stop and forgive their actions. We are no better and we too have been judged by our actions. What if you started to forgive your spouse for his sins rather than thinking he should do better or be different? Your heart would be less bitter (I know mine would!) and he would feel more loved.
Remember, don’t be so quick to judge, you only see what is shown.